Monday, September 26, 2011

SPLINTERS, LOGS, PEARLS AND PIGS: The Critical Spirit

 1 “Judge not, that you be not judged. 2 For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. 3 And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? 5 Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
6 “Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces.


Matthew 7:1-6


The critical spirit. This is the person who always thinks, "I am right and everyone else is wrong." Critical people always see, and aren't afraid of telling you, what is wrong with you, the world, your kids, the church, the leaders, their bosses, their co-workers... whoever. They search for the tiniest mistakes. Their heart is hard, their way is right and their mouth is cynical. The only apology they may make, is when they feel, for the umpteenth time in a single conversation, shaking their head in prideful disdain, they must inform you again of the error of your ways, your work, your judgement, your life. Everything they say is right and their uncanny ability to pick you apart is something they may consider their "gift" to the world. The strangest thing, however, is that this person will tear down an idea, concept, project or plan so quickly, but many times this very person will have ZERO experience or knowledge on the subject to support their demolition of another person.


This debater prides himself/herself on their wins, mentally carving the notch in the "belt" of people who have been pummeled, yet never considering the opponent they "took down". They mentally dismiss the occasional thought that every relationship in their life has crumbled or is in the process of destruction, mainly due to their solitary goal of being right. This person is a brilliant debater in their own mind, but very poor at truly loving anyone. Love can't be found in this hostile world of argument, criticism, arrogance and mental cruelty. Those that try to love this person approach them with a sense of guard, knowing that every good deed or word will by dissected, analyzed and carried out with the day's garbage. 


Always being critical of others and propelling oneself to a superior level actually makes it difficult for this person to change, grow, or learn. They hide their own faults/sins by projecting those exact faults/sins onto others. Publicly belittling someone for the very things he/she secretly dabbles in. They will judge mercilessly and defend their own ego. 


The problem is not personality, intellect, or logic, but rather, it is spiritual in origin. The master they serve is also the accuser of the brethren. Beware of anyone, confessing christianity or not, who has a critical spirit.



Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Compassion for the Enemy

Tonight I'm thankful for God's blessing. I'm meditating about passion for Jesus and compassion for others. There are the usual suspects on the compassion lineup: the elderly, the sick,  the poor, children, homeless, addicted, etc.....
But what about compassion for our enemies. Compassion for those who desire to harm us. Compassion for those who have hurt us, violated our trust, wrongfully used us, claimed to love us but didn't....

How do we have compassion for our enemies? How hard is it to be truly Christ-like and look beyond their faults and see their needs. How do we see that, if it were not for the abuse, rejection and hurt that had been inflicted on them... they may be our greatest allies. Even God's greatest allies.

I'm learning to trust God, pray for my enemies, and see them through the eyes of Christ. I know God loves them and only He can give me love for them. I pray that God give me strength to forgive them thoroughly and through that, compassion for their soul will grow.  It's a matter that I give to God and I know, it's a matter that He can handle.

He has big shoulders.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Pride Part 1

Becoming one with Him. This process has plenty of building but it also has some de-construction. It's a process of peeling off the identity that's been developing for the last 40 something years. So here goes a layer.... the first of many.

So the first thing that must be addressed is my stinking pride. My pride loves me but I have begun to hate Him. I want out. My pride doesn't want to let go. He doesn't want to give up on the relationship. But I'm standing here with my high heeled foot jammed up against the open door pointing the way out. It's an ugly breakup but it's a relationship that's just not gonna last and I'm ending it.

I've catered to my pride long enough. I gave into Pride's ridiculous demands, his empty threats, and his one-sided thinking. My pride has tried to block me from being with the One I really love. He tried to divide us- he tried to tell me that I was strong on my own. But pride lied to me. He also tried to separate me from people that I needed. Pride tried to convince me that I was always right. Pride said that I didn't need to be the first to apologize. Pride is the King of Excuses. 

More later...